
Issue 30 March 1998
Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh
Should we ask for worldly things in prayer?
Welcome to our monthly magazine. We hope that we are providing you with the type of reading material that you like. As always we welcome your feedback and are happy to offer help and advice. Do contact at the address and telephone given below.
We are also always looking for volunteers who can help with projects to promote Sikhism - maybe you have an idea or skill that you can use to spread the message of the Great Gurus. Again, contact us, maybe we can help each other.
I am very happy to report the launch of the three new Akaal Purkh Ki Fauj units. These units cater for all age groups, initially starting with the youngest. After every Gurmat camp children are eager to learn more, but by the time the next camp comes they are lazy once more. The uniformed groups hold meetings once a week in the evenings for a wide variety of activities. We are offering Scout activities for the kids. The Scouts are the largest Youth organisation in the world, so it makes sense to co-operate and learn from their experience and expertise. The first three groups are in Southall, Greenford and Reading. Do come and visit. Maybe you know someone who would like to join or better still you can work with us to start up a group in your town.
The Akaal Purkh Ki Fauj groups offer young Sikhs both girls and boys the opportunity to interact with each other and learn new and exciting new skills. Outdoor activities including camping are a key feature and will help children to learn how to fend for themselves.
All in all I think that you will agree that the units are a much needed project and we will counting on the support of the whole community and the Grace of Waheguru to make this a successful venture. For more information please do contact us or Daljit Singh on Tel: 0181 571 3740.
Should we ask for worldly things in prayer?
Real prayer is deep and inward; it is a dialogue between man and God. It is being in companionship with the Almighty. Man's friendship with God should enable him to grow like Him. In the fleeting moments of "vision", man forgets his body and the world he lives in. He unites with his Lord and Benefactor. Real prayer is pure adoration and dedication. It has no ulterior aim, no worldly things to gain. Prayer based on material desire, defeats its own purpose.
Man has been described as God's bride. Just as the wife makes all her needs and demands to her husband, so in the same way, man makes his request to God. As a good husband would meet the requirements of his spouse, and give her guidance and help, so God helps his servants. According to Sikh religion, worldly things can be demanded in prayer, but on principle, they should not be asked for. Things which render service to the soul and advance man on the spiritual plane can be requested. Guru Nanak requested God to give him contentment, humility and His Name. The remembrance and praise of God, is the only thing a devotee needs.
Should we ask for worldly things and He in His grace gives them to us, we never feel contented. No man feels that he has enough. He does not know what is good for him. When God does not grant his prayer, he blames God and curses His creation. God does like to bless him but it is sin or sloth which prevents the blessing coming through. It is ego which prompts one to ask for this thing or that for oneself. This is contrary to the principle of submission to the Will of God. Instead of asking for worldly things, the Sikh xmust put his trust in God and entreat Him to do what He thinks best. The Almighty never fails those who surrender themselves completely to Him. In the Sikh supplication, the Ardas, a Sikh prays for the constant remembrance of the Name and the welfare of all mankind. The right prayer creates hope, confidence and courage in the individual.
The Shabad that is read to preform the Sikh Marriage ceremony is commonly called "Laavan". Laav means "the activity/process of breaking away." At the time of marriage the individual breaks some old bonds and forges a new bond with his/her partner. On a spiritual level old bonds have to be broken before union with the divine.
The four laavan composed by Guru Ram Das Ji describe marriage as a rite of passage into higher and higher circles of existence. In Sikhism marriage is both literal (the union of 2 people) and also metaphorical (the union of the individual with God).
We will present the translation and commentry of each Laav in turn over the next few months.

| The first Laav is a resolution to act rightfully. A successful marriage is built on the partners understanding their duty to each other, their families and community. The hymn then tells that Remembering God, the True Guru, all our misdeeds are dispelled and Bliss is attained. "Everything happens through the blessings of the Creator"... "this is the first stage of breaking away from old norms, and consequent union with the spouse, and the divine." |
Do remember that a translation cannot do justice to the words of the Guru. You should, wherever possible, spend time and effort to understand the original words of the Guru.
Ranjit Singh, the great Sikh leader of the 19th century, had
employed French officers from Napoleons Grand Army to drill his troops on the European
model, and their fighting qualities were respected by the British. For 50 years the Sikh
kingdom extended from the Khyber pass to the borders of Tibet and China and the Sikh arts
flourished in the grandeur and excesses of the Sikh court of Lahore. 
The death of Maharaja Ranjit Singh (1839) was virtually the death of the Sikh kingdom. The revenue and judicial system began to crack up. Taxes were not collected in time and the pay of the civil and military personnel fell into arrears. The army which Ranjit Singh had built into a first class fighting force became like a monster unleashed. Many Europeans fled the country and Punjabi officers were reduced to drill-masters without any authority over their men. Control passed to the stewards elected by the soldiers who bargained for conditions of service with their officers.
Ranjit Singh successors murdered each other in scenes that pale the bloodiest Elizabethan drama, until a six year old King, his Mother and a vizier were left to rule. The sanguine drama of murder and reprisal continued behind the palace walls. The army grew in numbers till it had trebled itself - but without direction or discipline of any sort.
The English knew that the Sikh kingdom was ready to fall. All it needed was a little shaking. The British for a long time had coveted the Sikh Kingdom. Ranjit Singh had frustrated their design. He could match their wiles as his army could match theirs in strength. At the time of his death the British had suffered serious reverses in Afghanistan and had neither the power nor the excuse to move against the Sikhs. Within five years the situation had changed and the British again became aggressive.
The British raised the strength of their army in the Punjab, a strong line of reserves was also built up. In the summer of 1845, 70 thirty-ton boats were brought up and training in bridge-building started under the very noses of the Sikh soldiers guarding the frontier. Then the Governor-General himself came to the Punjab to plan the campaign.
The fight put up by the leaderless rank and file of Ranjit Singhs army surprised both the British army and the traitorous Sikh ruling classes. They mauled the British. For the next three days, the Sikhs waited for reinforcements promised by their commanders to finish off the English army. Reinforcements were deliberately held back. Instead of gun-powder, sackloads of sand were sent. The British who had received reinforcements defeated the Sikhs at Ferozeshahr. Two more battles ensued, one at Aliwal and the other at Sabraon, where the Sikhs were completely routed. By the treaty of surrender signed at Lahore in March 1846, nearly half of the kingdom was taken over by the British who at the same time sold Jammu and Kashmir for a paltry sum to a courtier of Ranjit Singh.
Young Dalip Singh was taken under protection and ordered to hand over the Koh-i-noor diamond. A British Resident was installed in Lahore with an army of his own. Lord Hardinge wrote: 'We must bear in mind that, by the Treaty of Lahore, the Punjab was never intended to be an independent State.... In fact the native Prince is in fetters, under our protection and must do our bidding.'
On the British side Lord Dalhousie replaced Lord Hardinge as Governor-General. He believed that the right to annex the Punjab was 'beyond cavil'. He wrote: 'The task before me is the utter destruction and prostration of the Sikh power, the subversion of its dynasty, and the subjection of its people. This must be done promptly, fully and finally.
The plan to annex was provided by the revolt of a small district within
the Punjab. It was an insignificant affair which could have been put down without much
exertion. But the British decided to describe it as a Sikh rising so as to have the excuse
of annexing what remained of their kingdom. To the surprise of the British a Sikh rising
it did become. The British tried to elicit the support of the Mohammedan Peasantry by
asking them to rise 'in the memory of their murdered parents, friends and relatives' and
destroy the Sikhs. 
The major engagement of this campaign was fought at Chillianwala in February 1849. The Sikh armies once again defeated the English. It was the worst reverse ever suffered by them in their history of empire building in India - and that at the hands of a virtually leaderless army. Once again when the British believed the battle was lost, their friends in the Sikh camp came to their rescue by holding back their fire. The British forces were given time to recoup their strength. At Gujarat, fresh forces entered the battle and turned defeat into victory. On 10 March 1849, the Sikh armies laid down arms. A fortnight later a proclamation was read annexing the Sikh kingdom to the British Crown.
"...our English cavalry with their blunt swords were most unequally matched against the Sikhs with tulwars so keen of edge that they would split a hair...I remember reading of a regiment of British cavalry charging a regiment of Sikh cavalry. The latter wore voluminous thick puggries round their heads, which our blunt swords were powerless to cut through, and each horseman had also a buffalo hide shield slung on his back. They evidently knew that the British sword was blunt and useless, so they kept their horses still and met the British charge by laying flat on their horses' necks, with their heads protected by their thick turbans and their backs by the shields; and immediately he British soldiers passed through their ranks the Sikhs swooped round on them and struck back handed with their sharp, curved swords, in several instances cutting our cavalry men in two...."
Sgt William Forbes Mitchell (93rd Sutherland Highlanders) 1910.
References: Books by Khushwant Singh
and George Burns
| Lessons of the ages
Ive learned that you cant hide a piece of broccoli in a glass
of milk. Ive learned that when I wave to people in the country, they stop what they are
doing and wave back. Ive learned that just when I get my room the way I like it, Mom makes me clean it
up. Ive learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should try cheering
someone else up. Ive learned that although its hard to admit it, Im secretly glad my
parents are strict with me. Ive learned that silent company is often more healing than words of advice. Ive learned that brushing a childs hair is one of lifes great
pleasures. Ive learned...that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that
no one will believe it. Ive learned that you can make someones day by simply sending them a little
card. Ive learned that the greater a persons sense of guilt, the greater his need
to cast blame on others. Ive learned that children and grandparents are natural allies. Ive learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life. Ive learned that if you want to do something positive for your children,try to
improve your marriage. Ive learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. Ive learned that you shouldnt go through life with a catchers mitt on both
hands. You need to be able to throw something back. Ive learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But if you focus on
your family, the needs of others, your work, meeting new people, and doing the very best
you can, happiness will find you. Ive learned that whenever I decide something with kindness, I usually make the
right decision. Ive learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love
that human touch-holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. Ive learned that I still have a lot to learn. |
Reflections and Offerings by Professor Puran Singh
